I've got a friend. He studies in my hometown. He is young. He is a nice boy. He's lonely.Sometimes he sends me sms, sometimes he sends me "missed calls" in the middle of the night.
And when we do get a talking or sms-ing. We usually get right back to the point that he's looking for someone special in his life.
Young, full of tainted innocence in a good way.
I've never met the guy before. We just sms and talk online.
He's a recent converSMSation between us..
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Joe: Do u know of any non-straight guys who r single? Intro to me can? Ha.
Me : What is your type? Physical and Personality-wise. Be Specific!
Joe: Type = non-sissy, a few years older than me. Personality=nice,not clingy, not childish. Added bonus:cute n more intelligent than me n can play da piano
Me: Build? Are you okay with long distance relationships? or does he need to be in KK?
Joe: Build = as long as he's not obese. Preferably slim. My build is not very good . Can't expect much. I don't like long distance. Friendship first. Need not be in KK.
Me: Need not be in KK but you don't want LDR? hmm...
Joe:For friendship it's ok to be long-distance.
Me: If it's friendship you're looking for, there are plenty to be found online.
Joe: Ya lo. How r? So bad. I wish I did better in my pre-u n got a place in UKM. Nvm la I'll just bear for a few more years.
Me: Well if it's a long distance friendship, how are you gonna keep it going? with your frequent famous missed calls? Like how we keep our friendS-M-Ship going, with SMS.
Joe: I want physical contact too. Someone to hug and sayang me when I want it.haha.
Me: Yeah I agree that sometimes the hugging and cuddling is much more important than the sex. It's what makes the reolationship more lasting. more special.
Joe: Of course la,but not everyone would hug you and sayang you. I'd hv got someone to do tht 4 me long long ago had i not grown up in perlis
Me:I grew up in KK so it's the same difference.
Joe: I feel very lonely sometimes though I'm surrounded by friends. Maybe coz they're straight.No one to share my inner feelings. It's a good thing my course is very hectic. It keeps me busy all da time.
Me: You know you can miss call me anytime you feel lonely.
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It all comes down to wanting to be with someone, not because one is horny for sex or clingy for affection, but just someone to be with to share a life with. This wisdom coming from a 20year old. He'll make someone a great partner one of these days. I wish him well.